I’ve been wanting to share my thoughts on Tarot for a long time, and finally, I’m putting pen to paper.
I’ve been reading Tarot for nearly ten years, and one common misconception I encounter is that Tarot is purely a form of fortune-telling—what the cards reveal is bound to happen. In reality, Tarot is not entirely about predicting fate. Rather, it reflects the trajectory of a situation based on both subjective and objective factors at the time of the reading. Of course, some aspects may provide long-term “predictions.”
People who view Tarot as fortune-telling often develop a particular mindset: “I don’t want to know the outcome because if it’s bad, it might influence me subconsciously and hinder my actions.”
This concern is valid, as the psychological effect—often referred to as the law of attraction—does exist.
However, the misunderstanding lies in the belief that Tarot dictates fate. Instead, we should use Tarot to understand the natural flow of events and make timely, appropriate adjustments to shape our desired outcomes. As I mentioned at the beginning, Tarot reflects the present moment. So what happens if we change our present?
Let me share a case. A woman was struggling with communication in her relationship. She was eager to resolve the issue and attempted to improve things by increasing communication, but her boyfriend remained emotionally distant. This created more friction between them. The more she reached out, the more he withdrew. She felt as though no matter how hard she tried, the gap between them only widened—like oil on water, the more she tried to touch it, the further it drifted away.
Eventually, she came to me for guidance.
The Tarot reflected their growing distance and indicated that the relationship would continue to deteriorate. She was anxious and wanted to know how to prevent this from happening.
The cards advised her to stop initiating conversations. If she approached the relationship with a detached attitude, they would eventually develop a stable and harmonious bond. This answer puzzled her. Their relationship was already lacking communication, and her boyfriend was emotionally withdrawn—how could things improve if both of them remained distant?
In the end, she chose not to follow the Tarot’s advice. Understandably, the guidance didn’t align with conventional logic. She continued to struggle for some time, but her boyfriend kept pulling further away until they ultimately broke up. Heartbroken, she returned to me, asking if there was any way to salvage the relationship. The Tarot indicated they would reunite, but only if she maintained her distance and avoided forcing communication.
(To be continued…)
